Two come to mind because first they are forefront in my mind lately and second they are a big contributor to conflict. The first is to assume while the second it to have expectations. We can assume all we want when it is in regards to ourselves and we can have all the expectations to our selves as we wish, that is a good thing.
When we project our expectations on to others and when we assume others will meet our expectations and assumptions we are looking for conflict. It may be unconscious which seems to me to be the norm or we can do this on a conscious level which is toxic at the very least.
Listen to an argument sometime and you will likely recognize that the discourse involves expectations and assumptions from one, the other or both persons. It is where the GAVSD comes into play for that conversation could then escalate into more. Dangerous stuff and something to be aware of.
Mostly, it is best to have no expectations of others; to not project any on others; to have no assumptions toward others; to not project our own assumptions onto others; to remember that humans cannot control will and it is unnecessary, unfair and unjust to force our expectations and assumptions onto others - a true mixture for conflict.
These are not the only traits but rather an example or sampling. One consideration is that they all seem to support and blend into one another. Usually it is a compilation of several that gets us into a fight.
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